I had three children and I was trying to save my marriage. What I didn’t realise at the time was that I was in an abuse and controlling relationship and I didn’t have the courage to leave. I had lost my self esteem and self worth through the nine years I was married.

I had tried on several different occasions to see counsellors and psychologist who would be empathic and good listeners, but we went over the same stuff over and over again which in fact made me feel worse because it confirmed that my situation was hopeless.

From the first time I had a session with Helen I knew I was the one that had to make changes to make my life meaningful. By using The Selfish Self techniques, Helen helped me understand what I truly wanted in life and how to work towards achieving those things. With her support I left my husband, bought my own home and started feeling that I was a valuable and worthwhile person.

I have now met a wonderful man and am extremely happy. We have both started seeing Helen now so that we don’t make the same mistakes as we did in our previous marriages.

I would recommend Helen to anyone who wants to know how to have a wonderful relationship.

When my husband and I first consulted Helen almost six years ago, we were on the verge of divorce. It seemed I was given an ultimatum that I was dubious to consider. I guess the whole scenario hinged on our differing selfish views of life and what we expected of one another. My hesitation to “give-in” founded on my “fears”, which I believed at the time were not avoidable. After consulting with Helen for several weeks, she was able to show us that neither party would change, but it was a simple fact of recognising what we both wanted and how to construct our lives respecting each other, whilst keeping a vision of the bigger picture and dealing with our fears. The tools Helen gave us were very valuable to our relationship and to our everyday life. We now have a beautiful family for which we are forever grateful to Helen for her advice and support”.

“A week wouldn’t go by when I have to remind myself of those “special tools” and the true meaning of life. Helen is truly professional and well-experienced when it comes to sharing those important things we all hate to face”.

“I continue to consult Helen when the going gets tough, but I can rest assured I will walk away from her session knowing I can cope when reminded I have the tools to do so.

Leesa Cleary
Lawyer